Are your teenagers getting “therapy” without your knowledge?
There's plenty of school counselors that could be providing "therapy" to your children without your knowledge, especially after they're 13 years old when they have more adult privileges and privacy safeguards according to US law.
Ironically, at the most rebellious time of a child's life, they're being counseled by strangers who have no context to the situations that might be going on in the teen's house, and the religious "limitations and restrictions" might be causing them "trauma." Of course in this situation, the student might need some intervention or may even need to shelter somewhere else until they can legally get separated from their parents.
I'm talking about loving parents who don't abuse kids. Regular parents who just want to lay down foundational rules both from a parenting and religious perspective, which only becomes hard to impossible when kids are surrounded by indecency and lack of good manners all day every day.
There's plenty of school counselors that could be providing "therapy" to your children without your knowledge, especially after they're 13 years old when they have more adult privileges and privacy safeguards according to US law.
Ironically, at the most rebellious time of a child's life, they're being counseled by strangers who have no context to the situations that might be going on in the teen's house, and the religious "limitations and restrictions" might be causing them "trauma." Of course in this situation, the student might need some intervention or may even need to shelter somewhere else until they can legally get separated from their parents.
I'm talking about loving parents who don't abuse kids. Regular parents who just want to lay down foundational rules both from a parenting and religious perspective, which only becomes hard to impossible when kids are surrounded by indecency and lack of good manners all day every day.
Staying in shape.
Alhumdulilah, I can do more pull ups now than when I was in high school.
I'm in my 40s.
Staying in shape is not an option, and most people realize it too late.
Alhumdulilah, I can do more pull ups now than when I was in high school.
I'm in my 40s.
Staying in shape is not an option, and most people realize it too late.
When the commercials are more poisonous than the TV show itself.
Television is already poison and a waste of time, but when the commercials are for drugs that most people don't need, the poison becomes even more potent.
Antidepressants that most people don't need, and add-on medications to your antidepressants if your main anti-depressant is not working are some of the most common ads I've seen recently when flipping through channels at a hotel.
They'll never tell you that you need a social life, spiritual healing, or that Islam is the solution. If you’re not feeling better they will tell you your medication isn’t working, and you need to supplement it with another drug that's usually classified as an atypical antipsychotic.
When it becomes normalized to take multiple drugs to fix a chemical imbalance in your head that didn’t exist and now exists because you’re on these medications.
The irony is unbelievable.
Television is already poison and a waste of time, but when the commercials are for drugs that most people don't need, the poison becomes even more potent.
Antidepressants that most people don't need, and add-on medications to your antidepressants if your main anti-depressant is not working are some of the most common ads I've seen recently when flipping through channels at a hotel.
They'll never tell you that you need a social life, spiritual healing, or that Islam is the solution. If you’re not feeling better they will tell you your medication isn’t working, and you need to supplement it with another drug that's usually classified as an atypical antipsychotic.
When it becomes normalized to take multiple drugs to fix a chemical imbalance in your head that didn’t exist and now exists because you’re on these medications.
The irony is unbelievable.
Do you even know your child is getting “therapy” (indoctrination)?
Over the past two years, so inundated have I been with parents' stories of school counselors encouraging a child to try on a variant gender identity, even changing the child's name without telling the parents, that I've almost wondered if there are any good school counselors. One parent I interviewed told me that her son's high school counselor had given him the address of a local LGBTQ youth shelter where he might seek asylum and attempt to legally liberate himself from loving parents.
There are good school counselors; I interviewed several. But the power structure's all wrong. Grant a leader the powers of a monarch, and he may gift his subjects freedom—but what's to tether him to his promises? That's placing a whole lot of trust in an individual counselor's con-science.
You might respond at this point: “Fortunately, my child has never been to see the school counselor.” But more likely, you don't know. In California, Illinois, Washington, Colorado, Florida, and Maryland, minors twelve or thirteen and up are statutorily entitled to access mental health care without parental permission. Schools are not only under no obligation to inform parents that their kids are meeting regularly with a school counselor, they may even be barred from doing so.
As long as a parent has not specifically forbidden it, a school counselor may be able to conduct a therapy session with a minor child without parental consent. School counselors are encouraged to make "judgment calls" about what information, gleaned in sessions with minor children, they may keep secret from the children's parents.
Even in states that require parents to be notified of their kids' in-school therapy, school social workers remain free to meet informally with a child and inquire about her sexual orientation, gender identity, or parents' divorce; such conversations often do not count as "therapy.”
Imagine many refugee families or parents that speak little to no English. What is happening to their kids, completely unbeknownst to them? This is how children come home one day and all of a sudden identify as gay or lesbian, without any previous warning signs. The parent is completely hoodwinked. The public schools are rewiring our childrens’ brains, and we don’t even speak the language.
Subhan Allah.
A fascinating yet disturbing quote from a real case in the UK:
“I’d cry after every party, but I didn’t know how to stop. I couldn’t be ‘haram’ enough to enjoy the sin or ‘halal’ enough to leave it.”
Over the past two years, so inundated have I been with parents' stories of school counselors encouraging a child to try on a variant gender identity, even changing the child's name without telling the parents, that I've almost wondered if there are any good school counselors. One parent I interviewed told me that her son's high school counselor had given him the address of a local LGBTQ youth shelter where he might seek asylum and attempt to legally liberate himself from loving parents.
There are good school counselors; I interviewed several. But the power structure's all wrong. Grant a leader the powers of a monarch, and he may gift his subjects freedom—but what's to tether him to his promises? That's placing a whole lot of trust in an individual counselor's con-science.
You might respond at this point: “Fortunately, my child has never been to see the school counselor.” But more likely, you don't know. In California, Illinois, Washington, Colorado, Florida, and Maryland, minors twelve or thirteen and up are statutorily entitled to access mental health care without parental permission. Schools are not only under no obligation to inform parents that their kids are meeting regularly with a school counselor, they may even be barred from doing so.
As long as a parent has not specifically forbidden it, a school counselor may be able to conduct a therapy session with a minor child without parental consent. School counselors are encouraged to make "judgment calls" about what information, gleaned in sessions with minor children, they may keep secret from the children's parents.
Even in states that require parents to be notified of their kids' in-school therapy, school social workers remain free to meet informally with a child and inquire about her sexual orientation, gender identity, or parents' divorce; such conversations often do not count as "therapy.”
Imagine many refugee families or parents that speak little to no English. What is happening to their kids, completely unbeknownst to them? This is how children come home one day and all of a sudden identify as gay or lesbian, without any previous warning signs. The parent is completely hoodwinked. The public schools are rewiring our childrens’ brains, and we don’t even speak the language.
Subhan Allah.
A fascinating yet disturbing quote from a real case in the UK:
“I’d cry after every party, but I didn’t know how to stop. I couldn’t be ‘haram’ enough to enjoy the sin or ‘halal’ enough to leave it.”
Homeschooling is difficult, but no pain, no gain.
Umm Khalid from MuslimSkeptic, describing her experience as a homeschooler:
Homeschooling is tiring, time-consuming, and often draining work.
But on days like these, when testing my children on Quran turns into a dynamic discussion on hadith and sirah and a recounting of historical incidents and stories of battle, it’s simply beautiful and fulfilling. My tiredness melts away as I marvel at the children’s level of understanding, their natural instinct to tie together the ayat of Quran with the sirah events they describe, and their process of information synthesis.
This reminds me of a commonly recited set of ayahs in the Qur’an that fits well in this situation for homeschooling families:
“So, surely with hardship comes ease. Surely with ˹that˺ hardship comes ˹more˺ ease.”
.فَإِنَّ مَعَ ٱلْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا. إِنَّ مَعَ ٱلْعُسْرِ يُسْرًۭا
Surah 94: 5-6
Umm Khalid from MuslimSkeptic, describing her experience as a homeschooler:
Homeschooling is tiring, time-consuming, and often draining work.
But on days like these, when testing my children on Quran turns into a dynamic discussion on hadith and sirah and a recounting of historical incidents and stories of battle, it’s simply beautiful and fulfilling. My tiredness melts away as I marvel at the children’s level of understanding, their natural instinct to tie together the ayat of Quran with the sirah events they describe, and their process of information synthesis.
This reminds me of a commonly recited set of ayahs in the Qur’an that fits well in this situation for homeschooling families:
“So, surely with hardship comes ease. Surely with ˹that˺ hardship comes ˹more˺ ease.”
.فَإِنَّ مَعَ ٱلْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا. إِنَّ مَعَ ٱلْعُسْرِ يُسْرًۭا
Surah 94: 5-6
What going to the Masjid can do for your mental health.
In Islam, it is obligatory for men to go to the Masjid and pray.
This sounds like a burden to the untrained eye, but it is a blessing in disguise.
A huge blessing!
It is the cornerstone of building a community upon righteousness.
The more you meet your brothers in the masjid, the more likely you are to interact with them, and build relationships with practicing families.
These relationships can then be used to build workflows and programs that help the community at large.
What is the opposite of not having a brotherhood?
You will be lonely and depressed, and that will affect all of your relationships, including your relationship with your wife and your kids.
This can easily spiral downhill, and instead of building, you'll be collapsing.
In Islam, it is obligatory for men to go to the Masjid and pray.
This sounds like a burden to the untrained eye, but it is a blessing in disguise.
A huge blessing!
It is the cornerstone of building a community upon righteousness.
The more you meet your brothers in the masjid, the more likely you are to interact with them, and build relationships with practicing families.
These relationships can then be used to build workflows and programs that help the community at large.
What is the opposite of not having a brotherhood?
You will be lonely and depressed, and that will affect all of your relationships, including your relationship with your wife and your kids.
This can easily spiral downhill, and instead of building, you'll be collapsing.
Antidepressants can ruin your life and your family’s life.
Blockbuster video on antidepressants, stimulants, and psychiatric drugs and how they can destroy your life.
This problem is creeping up more and more in schools, and kids are at the highest risk for these side effects since their brains are still developing.
Real advice from a real doctor whose in the trenches with these patients.
Blockbuster video on antidepressants, stimulants, and psychiatric drugs and how they can destroy your life.
This problem is creeping up more and more in schools, and kids are at the highest risk for these side effects since their brains are still developing.
Real advice from a real doctor whose in the trenches with these patients.
Remembering death is not morbid, it is what everyone needs.
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said,
“Remember often the destroyer of pleasures: death.”
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2307
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said,
“Remember often the destroyer of pleasures: death.”
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2307
Qur’anic therapy in two powerful verses.
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raajioon. - To Allah we belong, and to Him is our return.
We hear this phrase a lot, and we only use it when somebody passes away.
The reality though is, we need to use this phrase anytime we have any sort of calamity.
This is qualified by the previous verse in Surah Baqara, where Allah mentions:
We will certainly test you with something of fear and hunger, and loss of property, lives and crops, but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere, who say, when afflicted with calamity: To Allah we belong, and to Him is our return.
(Surah Baqara 155-156)
We need to ponder over this powerful statement: Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raajioon.
Imagine how many people can feel relief over their problems when they realize that their problem isn’t really a huge deal in the grand scheme of things. Allah is our final destination, and it is up to me to do my best while asking Allah for help throughout my life. This calamity that happened to me, it is part of my test, and Allah will judge me on how I reacted to it.
Imagine how many people can stop relying on a magic pill to help with their problems, only to cause several more problems that didn’t exist before? This magic pill by the way, ends up becoming two, three, or even four magic pills that you will need, all because our mindset has become so far away from our Deen that we mimic the disbelievers even in how we cope with life. These same pills that were supposed to help you overcome your sadness has now caused you to fall even deeper in sadness.
Most therapists and healthcare professionals won’t tell you the obvious facts, which is that you need religion and you need Islam in order to really feel relief from your crises.
Medications are supposed to be a step-therapy until you find the underlying problem, not a long term solution, especially for mental health.
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raajioon. - To Allah we belong, and to Him is our return.
We hear this phrase a lot, and we only use it when somebody passes away.
The reality though is, we need to use this phrase anytime we have any sort of calamity.
This is qualified by the previous verse in Surah Baqara, where Allah mentions:
We will certainly test you with something of fear and hunger, and loss of property, lives and crops, but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere, who say, when afflicted with calamity: To Allah we belong, and to Him is our return.
(Surah Baqara 155-156)
We need to ponder over this powerful statement: Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raajioon.
Imagine how many people can feel relief over their problems when they realize that their problem isn’t really a huge deal in the grand scheme of things. Allah is our final destination, and it is up to me to do my best while asking Allah for help throughout my life. This calamity that happened to me, it is part of my test, and Allah will judge me on how I reacted to it.
Imagine how many people can stop relying on a magic pill to help with their problems, only to cause several more problems that didn’t exist before? This magic pill by the way, ends up becoming two, three, or even four magic pills that you will need, all because our mindset has become so far away from our Deen that we mimic the disbelievers even in how we cope with life. These same pills that were supposed to help you overcome your sadness has now caused you to fall even deeper in sadness.
Most therapists and healthcare professionals won’t tell you the obvious facts, which is that you need religion and you need Islam in order to really feel relief from your crises.
Medications are supposed to be a step-therapy until you find the underlying problem, not a long term solution, especially for mental health.