You will be tested.

Your kids and my kids have an easy life.

The minute they start growing older, they will realize that their lives will be full of tests.

They need to know that from you firsthand. 

They need to know that life will never be constant bliss, but it is a constant struggle. 

Just like Allah subhana wata’aalah says in the Qur’an:

لَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا ٱلْإِنسَـٰنَ فِى كَبَدٍ ٤

Indeed, We have created humankind in ˹constant˺ struggle. (Surah Salad 90:4)

The struggle is real, and guaranteed!

If the Prophet ﷺ can lose 5 out of his 6 children during his lifetime, what makes you think you will not go through severe trials? 

If the Prophet ﷺ can get hit in the mouth with an arrow like he did in the Battle of Uhud, what makes you think that you will not go through pain?

The Prophet ﷺ was the Khalil of Allah, the close friend of Allah, yet Allah subhana wata’aalah gave him some of the biggest trials!

As a parent, we have a natural tendency to solve our kids’ problems, but sometimes we need to let them solve their own problems. 

They need to learn the struggles of life, and realize that they will have to solve their problems on their own one day.

The best way to prepare them for life is to give them that controlled independence, and allow them to find solutions on their own. It will help them develop strength, perseverance, empathy, and leadership qualities.

Be their guide that they come to for advice, but at the end of the day, let them resolve issues they are qualified to resolve.