How to live your life so your children can be successful.
Surah Kahf has so many hidden gems inside of it, and the one that really stuck with me today was about the righteous father who left behind two orphan boys.
This father who passed away, he did two important things:
Tips for a successful marriage.
Sr. Na’ima Robert talks about an important discussion that was very beneficial not only for prospective Muslims who want to get married, but also for those who have been married for years.
A good listen, especially the first 10-15 minutes where she talks about her personal story of marriage, loss, and shukr (thankfulness).
If there’s one thing I can say about this video, it is to watch the first 10-15 minutes about shukr and what to do when you go through a tragic loss. The formula that she was told by a friend was nothing short of genius and total submission to Allah.
You’re not wasting time if you’re doing stuff with your kids.
Yesterday, I had a plan.
I was going to workout after work, no matter what.
I just had to.
It has been a few days and I knew I needed the workout.
Did I want to do it? Of course not.
But it has to be done..
Reaching the delegation point in your family life.
You need to prepare for your kids Islamic lesson, but you also need to buy groceries.
What do you do??
Doing the bare bones consistently, can lead to Jannah?
The Prophet ﷺ said:
وَمَنْ سَلَكَ طَرِيقًا يَلْتَمِسُ فِيهِ عِلْمًا سَهَّلَ اللَّهُ لَهُ بِهِ طَرِيقًا إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ
Whoever travels a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise.
This translation doesn’t do justice to the word that is used for “seeking,” which is “iltimas.”
What is the best parenting style?
Abigail Shrier from her book, “Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up,” regarding parenting styles:
“After studying the ways parents attempt to control the behavior of children, Baumrind discerned three general approaches: permissive, authoritative, and authoritarian.”
Pleasing Allah through Cars and Coffee.
My son and I enjoy cars.
He might be a bit more obsessed than I am. Probably because he doesn’t have to worry about costs and maintenance like his dad does.
It is a great way for us to bond together in our shared hobby, and we went to our first cars and coffee yesterday. We had a great time, and we saw some cars we were not expecting to see in our small town:
Too many medical diagnoses in children?
Too many kids get a medical diagnosis for something that isn’t worthy of a medical diagnosis: ADHD, depression, anxiety, etc.
Too many kids then believe that something is wrong with them when in reality, we all go through anxious moments and depressive times.
Too many kids are then constantly reminded in the schooling system about their diagnosis, and they are coddled through the years.
How will this child grow up to deal with the realities of life? They never experienced the fact that tough times and how we handle them are what makes us stronger.