A Sunnah we can all do and need.
One of the easiest Sunnahs that we can all do today is also one of the Sunnahs that we all need today, arguably more than ever:
Authoritarian vs Authoritative Parenting
I discussed Permissive parenting in a previous post, but now I want to talk about Authoritarian Parenting. This is probably something many Muslims are familiar with, since it has the qualities that we grew up with, and by consequence, we have now inherited those same tactics for our own kids.
Hack your brain and think positive.
So there I was, driving down the road through some twisty turns, and I noticed that the neighborhood I was going through was a very wealthy neighborhood. It was the American dream in real life: big houses, big green landscaped yards, and 2 or 3 cars in each driveway, all secluded and distant from each other.
What is the best parenting style?
Abigail Shrier from her book, “Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up,” regarding parenting styles:
“After studying the ways parents attempt to control the behavior of children, Baumrind discerned three general approaches: permissive, authoritative, and authoritarian.”
Pleasing Allah through Cars and Coffee.
My son and I enjoy cars.
He might be a bit more obsessed than I am. Probably because he doesn’t have to worry about costs and maintenance like his dad does.
It is a great way for us to bond together in our shared hobby, and we went to our first cars and coffee yesterday. We had a great time, and we saw some cars we were not expecting to see in our small town:
Too many medical diagnoses in children?
Too many kids get a medical diagnosis for something that isn’t worthy of a medical diagnosis: ADHD, depression, anxiety, etc.
Too many kids then believe that something is wrong with them when in reality, we all go through anxious moments and depressive times.
Too many kids are then constantly reminded in the schooling system about their diagnosis, and they are coddled through the years.
How will this child grow up to deal with the realities of life? They never experienced the fact that tough times and how we handle them are what makes us stronger.